Homemaking is a job. With time, I’ve come to realize that if you don’t feel joy or pride from doing things as a homemaker, there’s no love there. There has to be love in order to do the job well.
I’m not saying you will do everything as if you’re a maid. A good husband will always be willing to help, but most times, we have to do the asking. And there shouldn’t be any grudge in that, we’re designed differently.
But when there is genuine love for the Lord, there is genuine love for your spouse and therein, a heart that is happy to serve her husband and/or kids. Why? Because when you’re in love with God, you recognize and are constantly aware that our God has a servers heart. He came to serve the least of us. He washed his disciples feet.
When I’m reminded of the heart of God, there’s no way I can do things for my family with an unhappy heart. It doesn’t mean I always start out with a happy heart, but it does mean I finish with a happy heart. With a Jesus-like heart. And that’s where my joy comes from; and my joy turns to strength to keep doing what I need to do. “The joy of the Lord is my strength.” Nehemiah 8:10.
Joy is found in the Lord first and foremost, once you have that, everything else comes naturally. “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” Matthew 6:33.
A homemaker is a job. A God-given job. How we handle it determines the spirit of our household, of our kids, of our husbands. Do we let God’s peace, joy, love…etc reign in our household? Do we let nagging, anger, and hatred take over? “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.” Galatians 5:22-23.
It’s something we have to remind ourselves daily, a choice we have to make every day, to be Christ like; to surrender our flesh from stopping to do what comes so naturally, and letting Jesus’ supernatural power become our reaction instead. But never forget that it is a privilege to be transformed by God himself to have a heart like his perfect son Jesus, our savior.